I am sorry you felt this way about your stay, but I am also very frustrated by your feedback.
I work VERY hard to ensure that my guests have a good stay and for you specifically, I bent over backward to help you with your late check-in and your lack of communication that caused issues from the get-go.
The house rules set expectations for literal strangers that decide to share living space. They actually protect BOTH guest and host. Moreover, very expectation is clearly posted in our listing and guests MUST actually check a box that states that you read and agree to the the rules PRIOR to booking. This way, guests that LIKE structure will choose to stay here, while those who prefer less structure will look to stay elsewhere, where they will feel more comfortable.
It is clear both from your feedback and your actions as a guest that you chose NOT to read the outline advance, and then decided complain about rules (that you agreed to) after the fact.
I suggest in the future you read the listing carefully to set your own expectations and so the next host doesn't suffer from a low star rating regardless of how hard she works to make the guest comfortable. Best of luck in the future.